As I’m sitting here, beer beside me, keyboard in my laps, I spit out my beer when I read this quote: “The power of beauty is such that the status of even a homely man skyrockets if he marries a dazzling woman. People discover positive qualities in him they never before noticed: self-confidence, likability, friendliness. People viewing individuals who are romantically linked to an attractive person try to make sense of the association. They may ask, ‘Why is she, desirable as she appears to be, involved with him?’ “
The reason this is so funny to me is that I can relate to this so much. Not in a conceited manner, but when I first got with my boyfriend, he had been single for almost 10 years. He obviously had his “hook-ups” for a lack of better word, but after his 10 year relationship where she cheated on him, he just chose to play around and not get into anything serious. When him and I became a thing, he always had many friends around, guys or girls it didn’t matter. We were always surrounded by his friends.
In on instance, one of his guy friends goes outside to smoke with me and says, “can I ask you something?” He then proceeds to ask (and I won’t use names), “why are you with ‘him’, I just don’t get it.” So I said, “ I’m not sure what you mean or why you would ask me that.” He says something like, “well, look at you. I don’t know I just don’t get it.” I was so damn offended that being the non-combative person I am I said nothing to him nor to my boyfriend at the time.
The next similar situation was one of his best girlfriends. She takes me upstairs of his house and says, “hey, so what are your intentions with my best friend?” I literally was blindsided by this question because I thought she liked me. It turns out, she didn’t understand why I liked him. To me, that was so ridiculously offensive because it made me think who the hell are these people that think so less of him? These are his best friends? They’re making him look like crap!
To explain one thing, I’ve always been a makeup girl. The girl in class is not the girl that worked as a bartender or even now on weekends. The weekend girl is Mac’d out, and in heels all the time. If for some reason my physical appearance made them uncomfortable, then I’m sorry but they did not have a right to say the things that they did. The worst part is it wasn’t even against me. I was offended because it was against their own best friend! How rude!
Physical appearance is very important, there is no doubt. But, to judge who your friends are dating and to become incapable of believing that love and affection would be the reason somebody is together because one is apparently more physically attractive than the other is just disgusting. I think he’s cute. Not to mention, he’s driven and smart and I have no reason why I have to validate my feelings to these haters who he used to call best friends.
Monika's Blog 